Dating A Sociopath?: How To Heal From A Breakup

By Auri Whitaker

Breakups, in general, suck. Plain and simple. You’re losing a friend, confidant, camping buddy, and so on. However, breaking up with a sociopath is on another level. This is a psychological unraveling that you would think only happens in movies. Once I found out I was dating a sociopath, I was hollow and afraid. My whole world stopped. I felt humiliated, enraged, shocked, nervous, and sick.

Months after, I remember feeling guilty and small after having failed yet another relationship. Was I really in love with a complete façade? I was house-hunting and meeting the parents of a whole sociopath?! But through intentional, rigorous inner work I have come to see that romantic love is a drug and because I withdrew from it, deliberately choosing myself, I am more than my shame; I am a survivor.

What are Sociopaths?

Here are some key indicators when dating a sociopath:

• Typically male (this disorder is up to 8 times more common in men than in women.)
• Remarkably independent
• An abundantly charismatic, effective, and chronic liar
• One early warning sign of a dangerous sociopath: cruelty towards animals
• Lack of respect for others’ property